Why is change so hard?

I’ve been pondering, what I think are some really big questions around personal change.

  1. What stops us from following through with change(s)?
  2. Why is it so difficult to implement new behaviours when we know they will support us?

So, here’s my take on why?

The thing is deep, lasting change is never easy.

Let’s face it most of the time it’s disruptive and down-right inconsiderate of our precious time, money and maybe even our reputation.

Often it’s easier and ‘less stressful’ to stick with what we know even if we know it’s not ideal for us.

We end up hanging on and hoping for the best while continuing to attract similar, difficult life situations, relationships, moods, as well as, chronic health complaints.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Albert Einstein

Sometimes, resistance to change can be so strong that we find ourselves coming up with all sorts of reasons for why we don’t need to change or why the considered change is “out of the question right now”.

The most common ones tend to be, “I can’t afford it”, “I don’t have time”, “It’ll be too disruptive to my relationship(s)/family/work”…..

These are all logical and very plausible left brain reasons for why you can’t change.

Let’s take a closer look at these common reasons.

I can’t afford it

Money is a big one but, often (not always) when we begin to look at how and where we’re spending our money we realise that if we begin to re-arrange some of our spending habits we would be able to make this investment in ourselves.

Whether it’s replacing some of our foods/drinks with quality wholefood (nutrient dense) alternatives to engaging help from specific qualified individuals for support to investing in a ‘practitioner’ prescribed supplement/herbal regime.

I suggest giving yourself a time frame to work with especially, if you’re particularly attached to some of your food/drink/lifestyle habits. But, be realistic as real, lasting change does take time.

I’m too busy

I can’t emphasise the importance of this one enough.

When we start telling ourselves and everyone else around us that “we’re too busy”, it’s a sure sign that we’ve allowed our stress hormones to take over the running of our body and our life.

This is a state where we are unable to think clearly about ourself and what our body needs to stay balanced, healthy and calm.

We disconnect from our body’s fundamental need for food, hydration, rest, movement and sleep as, “we just don’t have time”.

While the idea of letting go of anything causes immense fear and anxiety.

Often along with all this busyness comes a deep sense that nothing is good enough so we drive ourselves to do more, be more, and possibly have more, more, more….

If this is you maybe it’s time to stop and allow yourself some space to just BE.

The process of stopping generally starts within ourself (mindfulness) and gradually works its way into our outer world step by step.

It’ll be too disruptive to my relationship(s)/family/work

This relates to the ‘people pleaser’ in us who is always saying yes and unable to say no.

Boundary setting is helpful here.

When we love, honour, value and nurture ourselves others will do the same but, it needs to come from us first.

We need to make ourselves a priority.

“When we live in a state of stress our outer world becomes more important than our inner world.” Dr Joe Dispenza

Often many of the excuses we make cover up a deeper truth which is based in childhood fears, and feelings of not being good enough or worthy enough.

These are the subconscious drivers that tend to sabotage our ability to follow through with changes.

They also inhibit us from finding that deep sense of satisfaction and contentment in our lives.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Gandhi

Implementing change(s) isn’t selfish.

It’s taking responsibility for who, what and how we are with ourself, others and the world around you.

When we begin reconnecting with our own innate needs we stop expecting everyone else to change so our life will be better. We have more energy and feel more alive instead of exhausted all the time. And, we start valuing all aspects of our life just the way it is.

We flourish and so will everyone around us.

So, don’t allow anything to get in the way of your own deep personal growth/change. Dig deep and find the courage and commitment (to you) to follow through with things that support your health and happiness versus those things that don’t.

You’re worth it!

Don’t struggle alone. Call Belinda 0400 225 771 today to book a naturopathic consultation or secure your place in one of her 10 week gentle yoga/mindfulness programs.

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